Wandering Crow
Artwork and Poem by George Asdel
The Sun is setting, the sparrow’s
asking,
Where
are you evening crow?
I see the bough where you sleep.
I know not where you go.
The Sun is up, the dove is cooing,
Where
are you morning crow?
I see the bough where you dreamed
not so long ago.
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Once Upon a Catholic
Time II
Betty Finocchiaro's Short Memoir
"Don’t say
that. The
Blessed Mother cries when she hears you speak that way." That was my
mother talking. One of her ways to keep me on the straight and narrow.
It was too, the strategy of most catholic mothers, pre-Vatican II. A
loaded sin. Guilt with a capital G.
The Catholic Church loomed like a heavy shadow in most of our lives.
God, our Father, punished. The way to get to him was through the myriad
of saints, who somehow shielded us from his wrath. There was Saint
Anthony for lost things -- maybe lost causes too -- Saint
Anne, mother of Mary, for new mothers, Saint Christopher in your
speeding car. (In 1939 my uncle Tony was speeding at 35 miles an hour,
to the delight of my cousins and me, on our summer trips out to Long
Island!) The list went on and on. All could intervene for you because
the belief was that God was to be sought after by prayers through
intercession. Rarely did one go straight to Him. A saint became the
delegate. So, in1962, the architect of Vatican II, Pope John XXIII,
helped break the many chains of guilt. Ecumenism was embraced,
recognizing our Protestant and Jewish fellowship.
The era of scaring kids witless was over. But not before scars that
needed to be healed. Miss Sunday mass, Mortal sin. Disobey mom, Mortal
sin. Steal an apple from a fruit vendor. More sin. Think ugly thoughts,
a sin in itself. Purity was the name of the game. And that’s
why there were nuns, in big, black billowy skirts, a paddle under their
folds to take care of problems. Of course, the paddles seemed aimed at
boys. The girls’ punishment would be more piled-on guilt.
Getting ready for your First Holy Communion was the biggest test of
all. After learning all of the Baltimore catechism required to receive
Jesus for the first time, the motions of how to do this were taught. In
catechism class, everyone learned how to kneel, fold hands over hearts,
(a sure way of indicating love for the Lord), closing our eyes, with
protruding tongue in anticipation of the blessed Host. Before that
however, came your first-ever dreaded confession for which there was
even more preparation. When the day of my first confession arrived, I
sat at our kitchen table and while my mother placidly did some ironing,
I gazed at the paper in front of me, pencil in hand, ready to write
down my long list of indiscretions against God and man. For the life of
me - I was ten years old - I couldn’t think of one single sin
I might have committed. So, I indulged my mother to help. I began by
asking her if I was ever "mean" to her. You can imagine her response. A
field day for any mother. Later that day, I took my small piece of
paper into the confessional with me and with trembling voice and hands
I announced all of my Deadly sins. I was happy that the screen between
us hid the priest’s angry face. I was sure he hated this
sinner.
"Cleanliness is next to Godliness." That was the Catholic mantra. So,
after the Saturday night weekly bath, there was a good supper before
the mandatory fasting between sunset and sunrise that followed. After
Mass we ran home to breakfast. The cycle began again. If I had missed
Mass that Sunday, I felt plagued by mortal sin. Our Lord certainly
wouldn’t welcome me into Paradise. And, in my childish mind,
If I lived safely until mid-week, I had not to die until next
week’s confession could take away my sins making me Heaven
worthy once again. One tried desperately not to miss Sunday Mass.
In the years that have followed, life in the Catholic Church has been a
gentler one. For me, experiencing the spiritualism and guidance of new
thinking has helped change fear of the Lord, to acceptance of a kinder
Being. Though Pope John XXIII died during the design of his new wave of
thinking, nothing takes away my belief in his Sainthood. His legacy of
Ecumenism looms larger and much more brilliant than the shadows of
yesterday. Yet, in some ways, I have to admit nostalgia for the past.
The Mass was a mystery, accentuated by the Latin in which it was
spoken. I sometimes miss the mystery, and the meditation I believe it
encouraged.
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